by Myla on September 18, 2011
Mein Schatz,
Soon we will be celebrating our fourth year of marriage. Wow. I can hardly believe that we’ve been married that long already. Where did the years go? I didn’t notice them pass by. And that is not to say that we haven’t done anything exciting… in fact, those four years are the most exciting time of my life.
I like to say it’s because nothing has changed. But that is just wrong. We are still very much in love with each other just like we were on our first few months together. True. Our love for each other is definitely as intense as before but it has also flourished in so many ways I can’t really explain.
A lot has changed. Our surroundings’ changed. We’ve changed. We’ve matured. We are bonded by marriage but that is not enough. We wanted more. Not from each other but from our life together. We wanted a bond that can’t be broken by time, by law, and by anybody.
We wanted a child.
And each day, I am deeply grateful that we are blessed with one.
Now the life we have together is more meaningful and the bond we have is stronger.
The reason why I didn’t really notice those four years passing by is because I am enjoying myself too much—I am having the time of my life.
I love you, I love our son, and I love our life.
Bussi,
Schatzl
by Myla on August 21, 2011
It’s been five months since I last updated this blog. That’s a matter of fact and it makes me feel quite ashamed. This blog is, without a doubt, the most beneficial blog I have. Not only to me but also to a few who find themselves reading my blogs (whether they are regular readers or just leads from google search engine).
Compared to my other blogs, the topics I discuss here have more sense. Some old entries are even helpful to others. So I should really give this blog the attention it deserves. I actually want to do that ever since I started it but somehow, I am finding it more and more difficult to create posts for this blog. That is because I am sort of pressured to write something “sensible”, something with real “content”.
So I decide to lift that pressure. From now on, I will just write anything about my opinion on relationships and marriage in general (not just intercultural marriage). I promise to put more attention to this blog. Posts, be it helpful to others or not, be it personal or not, will come more often. Not everyday, but definitely not every five months.
by Myla on March 22, 2011
While my husband and I were in the car driving somewhere last weekend, we’ve been randomly talking about things and people we both know. I don’t like to go into too much details but our topic was European-Asian relationships. At some point, I asked him why he does not like to hang out with a certain European-Asian couple and here’s what he said.
Look, I don’t want to be in a league with guys who are married to Asians because they can’t get a decent European woman. I am not like that and I don’t like to be compared to them or to be associated with them in any way. I am married to a Filipina for the very honest reason that I fell in love with you, and not because I am a loser and can’t find a decent European woman.
That is of course very sweet of him but at the same time, harsh. Harsh not to me but to the couple we’ve been talking about (even if they were not there). But I understand where my husband is coming from. You see, some people can be really judgmental that they immediately think that there’s something wrong with a European guy married to a woman from a third world country. Things like…he’s probably just plain ugly, incredibly fat, awfully missing some teeth, too old and balding. Or if it’s not about his looks, it could be because of something else; he’s probably an alcoholic, a psychologically troubled person, a pervert, or a complete asshole that no European women can stand him. Things like that (and a lot more) are immediately linked to guys married to women from third world nations.
Now, can we blame these people when 90% of intercultural marriages fall exactly in their boxes?
I don’t know but here’s my personal take on this. If people look at us without cynicism, they’ll immediately see that my husband and I look, talk, think, and behave in a completely normal way. Without cynicism, they can immediately tell that we are together because of the most honest reason. But there will be always people who are judgmental and they can be really annoying sometimes but I don’t let them get to me and that is also what I tell my husband and friends who are in intercultural relationships.
