If you haven’t yet, I advice you to read the first part before reading this one.
Now, let me remind you, I am not a professional psychologist or an expert when it comes to relationships. I am merely expressing my opinions based on my own observations, experiences, and from what I gather from friends who are in the same situation.
Last time, I discussed about how to tame a sulking Filipina when they are acting up all weird and cold. This time, I will suggest the only option I can think of to win her back when all else have failed. Now, let’s make things clear. This is supposing that it is your fault, that she still loves you, and that the only reason why she is turning away from you is because she’s hurt and not because she doesn’t love you anymore. Clear?
Ok, supposing you have hurt her deeply and now she’s crying non-stop, ignoring you, refusing to talk to and to see you, or she’s leaving you. You tried everything you can to make things okay between the two of you but nothing worked. Then it’s time to for a “go-between”.
Ask somebody, preferably one or both of her parents to go in between. Why? Filipinas give so much regard to their parents; they respect and listen to them. The only way you can get to her is through them. This is one good reason why you should try to create a good relationship with you in-laws. You’ll never know when you need them for help such as this.
So, talk to her parents. Explain what happened and tell them that you tried every thing in your power to make things okay but you failed and you need their help. Tell them sincerely that you love their daughter (that you’ll go to the end of the earth with her etc… you know these kind of things… just don’t over do it). They’re more likely willing to help and it is more likely that it is going to work because she is more likely going to listen to her parents. (Like I can’t use “more likely” enough).
So that’s it.
I guess everything I am saying here only works if you have a real relationship with a Filipina. If you know each other and you know each other’s background. If you just know her and she’s acting up all primadonna-ish, moody, and bitchy then leave her! The Philippines is a home of lovely girls with great characteristics but we have lovely girls with no-so-great characteristics too so before you make yourself a slave to your dream Filipina, get to know her first.
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What??? Primadonna-ish???!! My beautiful, wonderful, warm Pinay??? No way Jose! haha Well Vienna, just when I was starting to feel good about understanding my tiny gorgeous, you had to say this?? (long sigh) So that beauty goes to your head? I guess its the same everywhere huh? I liked your “tell her parents you’ll go to the ends of the earth for her…. just don’t over do it.” hahahha How bout we just leave it at, I’ll go outside til she calms down? Oh well…. women? who understands them?
@Danny,
Well, you cannot put all FIlipinas in one box.
We are know to be warm, etc, etc. but we also have our share of women who are not any of these positive things.
What I am saying is, you have to really know her first, know if she’s worth the effort.
If you just know her ans she giving you a hard time by acting up all weird or overly sensitive or shee getting immediately mad over something shallow…then well, you have to think wise. She may be a Filipina but that doesn’t give her the license to be a warm, caring, (insert all filipina positive stereotypre here) person.
it’s imperative to know the person you are in a relationship with… before you jump on the wedding aisle… informed choice ika nga
Hi Vienna gurl!
nice post huh!how to tame a sulking filipina!
im back by the way ^_^
hugs,
ghee