Online Dating 101: Acceptance
So you have decided that you want to try online dating. You already made up your mind to take the plunge. And you are ready to trust your gut instinct to seek that “one-true-love” in the cyber-nether-land. But before taking that first big step, there is still one important thing that you have to reflect on – acceptance.
Let me tell you a story. When I was in my mid-30s, I already have some doubts if I will really get hitched or not. I had no relationship. I had no social life. I had no contingency plan. It was a scary feeling but I didn’t entertain it much for fear that it will materialize. Like any woman passed her marrying age, I was scared out of my wits. But I tried hard to camouflage the emotion with self-denial. When people would ask me when I would get married, I would usually say… “I am happy as is”. “I don’t need a man to make me feel otherwise”. “I’m busy with work and don’t even have time for myself”. “If it is God’s will for me to stay single, I don’t care”. And yada… yada… yada. All lies! God knows how hard I pray to find the guy of my dream. I have lots of novena prayers to different saints [I am a catholic, btw] asking for their miraculous intercessions to find my man. And I went to join some pilgrimage to make special wish for a husband. It was depressing. When I hit 40, I realized one thing… I need to stop hoping and praying and start doing. God helps those who help themselves, right? So I did just that.
Acceptance is the most important thing to consider in making the right decision. It is the most significant factor to decide whether you are ready to make a paradigm shift or not. And it is the first thing to do to make your dream a reality. Not unless you accept the fact that you are indeed looking for love, you ain’t gonna find it. Denial is like a cancer feeding on your healthy self-esteem. When you finally accepted the fact that you need someone to make your life complete then, it will be easier for you to make the right decision on when… where… and how… you can find that special someone.
Acceptance is not as easy as ABCs. You need a lot of motivation to do it. You need to zero-in to your self-importance. You need to grow thick skin. You need to be a hardcore maniac to accept your decision. And that means you have to disregard what people will say. People will talk. Oh yes, they are good at that. People will gossip behind your back. Oh yes, you have to get used to it. People will say all things imaginable that might engulf your ego and back out. Oh sure, people will discourage you big time. And it’s up to you to do the next step. Your fate now lies in your own hands.
Love doesn’t grow on trees. You have to seek it. You have to chase it. You have to search for it. You have to make a choice. Go global, that’s the thing of the present. If you are looking for love… surf it. Sign up for it. Log in to it. Get connected and you will get the benefits one way or the other. Love is a decision. Love is pro-active. Love is an incredible mission.
So, are you looking for love? Do you have the stomach for it? Are you psyched up enough to set out for it? Are you convinced yet? Then, make IT your “MISSION.“ ©
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