Online Dating 101: The Vision
When I reached 40, I drew up my mission statement – I am a woman… I am still single… I am 40… And I am not getting younger. Therefore, I got to get hitched, one way or another. So help me God!.
When I reached 40 I thought life will begin there. I was hopeful. I was optimistic. I was confident. Well, blame it to the cliché – Life begins at 40. Eventually I found out… 50 – is the new 40. OMG! This can’t be happening… was all I said. At the back of my mind, I was asking myself… does it mean I still have 10 more years to play safe? OMG [part 2]! This can’t be true… was all I said. At hindsight, I was beginning to cave in.
When you reached 40 and you wake up one day realizing that you are tired of waking up alone, you do need someone. And once you accepted it, you begin to explore possibilities how to address your needs. Once you get an idea, you can draw up a plan which [if you do not have yet realized] is considered as your mission. The mission is – to wake up having someone on my bed. Well, that could be the simplest, most direct-to-the-point, no-pretense, non-condescending and no-non-sense mission anyone could come up with. There is nothing wrong with that. What matter is that… you already have a concrete plan of what you want in your life and for your future.
When you reached 40, it is your mission to do something with your life because nobody will do it for you. But a mission will not be a mission per se if you are not willing to venture into the next level. You need to imagine that mission. You should be able to see in your mind what the future holds. You must live, eat, drink and breathe your mission. Otherwise, everything will just be a dream – a dream with no certainty… a dream with no conviction… a dream with no assurance. And you will spend the rest of your life alone. So sad! Having a mission is only a way for you to have a tangible reason to see in your mind’s eye what you want in your life. Simply put – from mission evolves vision.
When I reached 40, I started imagining my life as a housewife and a mother. I would role-play the vision in my daydream. I would imagine how my life as a housewife and a mother would start and end. I would imagine how I would take care of my family. You see, when the truth is far from the reality, the most convenient way to live life is to see it in your mind. At least there, you have a perfect storyline.
When I haven’t reached 40 yet, I believed I was a princess. And someday, my prince charming will come and make me his queen. But it didn’t happen. Hundred years passed by [just exaggerating to fit the fairytale theme], I found myself wandering in cyber jungle and ta-da… I found my prince. We fell in love and in no time I was on a jet plane heading to farther-than-far-away-land. When the plane touched down, reality knocked and my prince charming turned out to be a frog. Just kidding! Of course, he is no royalty but he is the King of the Hill [in the real sense of the word] then he married me and that made me a Queen, right? The moral of the story is… my vision evolved into a reality.
When you reached 40, you need a mission. You have to state it and believe that you can attain it. Then have a vision of how you can achieve your mission. Don’t under-estimate the power of positive thinking. I am a firm believer of that. I am a big fan. It gives you power over your doubts. And it prepares you to… GETTING STARTED. ©
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