Comments on: The Secret of Our Happy Marriage http://www.bizarremarriage.com/index.php/2009/03/27/the-secret-of-our-happy-marriage/ can't be this perfect! Mon, 26 Jul 2010 02:06:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: vienna http://www.bizarremarriage.com/index.php/2009/03/27/the-secret-of-our-happy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1625 vienna Thu, 16 Apr 2009 07:33:08 +0000 http://www.bizarremarriage.com/?p=69#comment-1625 @Samantha : I am sure they don’t mean to offend you. The reason I could think of why they sort of “ignore you” during gatherings is because they are not at ease with speaking in English (your language). It would help a little bit if you learn a few Tagalog phrases. Filipinos like it very much when foreigners try to speak our language. We like to listen to your twang. We may smile or laugh (when a foreigner tries to speak Tagalog) but that doesn’t mean we are laughing <strong>at</strong> the foreigner rather, we are laughing <strong>with</strong> the foreigner. It could also help if you try to learn a few of their tradition and put it to practice when you are with them (ex. kissing the hand of the elders). I know it’s kind of weird but this would definitely feel that you are reaching out to them. Goodluck! @Rick : too late! we already moved in in our new flat. it's already a week and so far, we are still doing good. Thanks for dropping by. :) @Samantha : I am sure they don’t mean to offend you. The reason I could think of why they sort of “ignore you” during gatherings is because they are not at ease with speaking in English (your language). It would help a little bit if you learn a few Tagalog phrases. Filipinos like it very much when foreigners try to speak our language. We like to listen to your twang. We may smile or laugh (when a foreigner tries to speak Tagalog) but that doesn’t mean we are laughing at the foreigner rather, we are laughing with the foreigner.

It could also help if you try to learn a few of their tradition and put it to practice when you are with them (ex. kissing the hand of the elders). I know it’s kind of weird but this would definitely feel that you are reaching out to them.

Goodluck!

@Rick : too late! we already moved in in our new flat. it’s already a week and so far, we are still doing good.

Thanks for dropping by. :)

]]> By: Rick http://www.bizarremarriage.com/index.php/2009/03/27/the-secret-of-our-happy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1248 Rick Fri, 03 Apr 2009 05:44:09 +0000 http://www.bizarremarriage.com/?p=69#comment-1248 Big mistake. Really. Keep separate bathrooms. Find a better flat. It really, really matters. For a man, a bathroom is his crap-shack. For a woman, it's her temple. These approaches are completely incompatible. I speak from experience. :) Big mistake. Really. Keep separate bathrooms. Find a better flat. It really, really matters. For a man, a bathroom is his crap-shack. For a woman, it’s her temple. These approaches are completely incompatible. I speak from experience. :)

]]> By: Samantha Munoz http://www.bizarremarriage.com/index.php/2009/03/27/the-secret-of-our-happy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1159 Samantha Munoz Fri, 27 Mar 2009 14:17:44 +0000 http://www.bizarremarriage.com/?p=69#comment-1159 Hey Vienna, I'm Sam. I'm 18 and in college and I ran into your blog because i'm doing an interpersonal Research Project on Intercultural Dating and I'm using your blog as a source for my paper. I was glad that I ran into this particular website because my boyfriend of 1 year is fillipino and I thought maybe I could get some healthy advice from you... I know that fillipinos are very family oriented for example my boyfriend's family contact each other almost everyday even though they live in 2 different countries. To me it's not really common but I understand that's how his culture is, but I've just found myself getting really frustrated because i feel like i am often ignored when we go to family parties together... I'm sure you know how filippino parties are.. (many distant family members, and often times there are a lot of seperate groups and of course karaoke! lol) but it seems to me that they are a little distant towards me just because of my difference in race. Idk.. I feel like i'm becoming to not like his family because they are sort of stereotype. And every other fillippino that I meet is the same way including their family. By the way this mostly happens with females esspecially his mom which has a huge problem with me I think jus tbecause i'm not filippino.. Well my question is why are they like that and what can I do to help? Hey Vienna, I’m Sam. I’m 18 and in college and I ran into your blog because i’m doing an interpersonal Research Project on Intercultural Dating and I’m using your blog as a source for my paper. I was glad that I ran into this particular website because my boyfriend of 1 year is fillipino and I thought maybe I could get some healthy advice from you…
I know that fillipinos are very family oriented for example my boyfriend’s family contact each other almost everyday even though they live in 2 different countries. To me it’s not really common but I understand that’s how his culture is, but I’ve just found myself getting really frustrated because i feel like i am often ignored when we go to family parties together…
I’m sure you know how filippino parties are.. (many distant family members, and often times there are a lot of seperate groups and of course karaoke! lol) but it seems to me that they are a little distant towards me just because of my difference in race. Idk.. I feel like i’m becoming to not like his family because they are sort of stereotype. And every other fillippino that I meet is the same way including their family.
By the way this mostly happens with females esspecially his mom which has a huge problem with me I think jus tbecause i’m not filippino..
Well my question is why are they like that and what can I do to help?

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