Every woman always desires for a simple and a headache free life. Meet the man of her dreams and build a happy family. In short, I am one of them. After having two relationships, two break ups I have told myself that I have had enough. The last break up even made me left the Philippines and looked for a teaching job in China as part of moving on. Well, I still hoped for my so-called “Mr. Right” to come along. I never knew that I would be married now. How would I had known? How would one know who and from where her right man would be?
After two or more years of waiting for my “Mr. Right”, in the middle of winter in 2008, I have met him through a friend (and oh yes! He is German). At the beginning of our dates, he always told me that he never wanted to have a girlfriend and never wanted to marry. Therefore, it was the same as other couples’ love stories—a love at first sight. But then, who can resist the beauty and the charm of a Filipina (wink)? Many people say that marrying somebody in the same race is still the best. You would not have any problems with language and cultural differences. You can express everything you want to, either in anger or pleasure, and be sure that you would be understood. But who cares about what others say? For me, he’s the most thoughtful, compassionate, caring, and loving man I have ever met. He sounds perfect, yeah?! What else should I say? I love him and he loves me. When we decided to become a couple after months, it was not that easy. He went back to Germany and I stayed in China. We just met every time he visited me in China during summers and we had holidays together in the Philippines during winters. That was for 2 years. He met my family and he knows most about me. Long distance relationships are not easy. We see each other almost every day online; it seems that we’re close to each other but yet far. On his holiday in China in August 2009, he proposed for marriage. We decided to marry the following year. I am acquainted with problems in interracial marriages but did not anticipate them until then. I have to get a visa, and getting it requires a lot of documents. The fact that I am from Asia and he’s from Europe made everything extra complicated. I have to learn basic German language, pass the exam and get a certificate. The German embassy has to do a background investigation of me and some more other stuffs.
But hey! We did it! He’s the one and I am the one. We have gone well so far. I got a fiancée visa and I’m now happily married to my “Mr. Right”. I am sure that there will be more problems to come and to overcome!
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What a great story! That almost brought a tear to my eye, because I can sympathize with you totally. I went through a very similar situation, and had 2 relationships end pretty badly. I couldn’t move on, but then I met my soon-t0-be husband. We have know each other for 2 years, and are getting married next year.
I am glad you found someone, but I do have one question… How is the online relationship/long distance relationship? I have heard horror stories, but it seems like you two are doing great!!
Anyways thanks for the great article, I love your site by the way. I will continue to read. Best wishes!
thanks for reading and im glad that u like it..well,life wont be exciting if we dont have ups and downs.but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel..
long distance relationship is not that easy,but u just have to hold on to each other..trust,pray and believe that it will work!!
ThankS!!
so loving the sweet sweet love story.. Been praying for that too.
VERY nice! I am in a long distance relationship myself and now pregnant,not married yet but hoping before the baby is born. His from Belgium and well I am from PH obviously it is VERY difficult and sometimes i am kinda losing all hopes. Already been in his country,met his parents and well he come visit me almost every 3 months but we cant live like this forever. I do miss him VERY much that i cant even explain, its like it means more than the words itself
We have to be together.
I will continue reading your blog and congratulations!