When I got married to my “Mr. Right”, I know, but not exactly sure, what is waiting for me in his country. Since hubby lives, works, and comes from Germany, I have to be with him. As the song says and I quote; “I’d do anything in the name of love”.
In most of interracial marriages, wives usually migrate to where their husbands live or bound to go. It happens to most friends I know and this does not exclude me. I have to live in a foreign land, start a new family, maybe find a new job (with crossed-fingers), and meet new friends. I do not have any problems with adjusting in a new country but we are from way too different continents that our cultures are extremely different. But up until now, our cultural issues are still bearable for me and I hope it will continue to be so. Let me tell you some for instance. In the Philippines, we use many terms to show respect to older people. When I met my hubby’s family, the grandparents and parents told me that I could just call them with their names. How can I do that? Have you ever called your mother-in-law just with her first name? It sounds strange, yeah? So I insist calling them mom, dad, oma and opa. And just to share to everybody, I am really lucky with my in laws so far.
The other example is about my hubby’s ex-girlfriend. I was hesitant of sharing this thinking that hubby might read this article and would not like it. Anyway, might as well share it so here it is.
The first thing I do every time I reached home from a day out is to check our phone calls. When I saw that hubby’s ex-girlfriend called, I was idealess as to why she’d do that and I was maybe a bit jealous too (big evil grin). My hubby told me that night that his ex-girlfriend wants to rent his other apartment. Well, it was nice of my hubby to tell the ex-gf that he will ask my opinion about it first and we will decide together. Of course, I never like the idea that his ex will be renting the other apartment though for my hubby, it was fine. He does not have any problem about it, I do! I trust him but never will his ex be allowed to rent one of my husband’s apartment.
It’s nice when divorced parents still have good relationship with each other or when they still talk and are good friends. That’s one good thing I have observed here. However, I could not accept this thing with my hubby and his ex. They were not couples anyway that got a divorce.LOL! Was it her way of getting my attention? She definitely knows that we just got married. Anyway, it was difficult for my hubby to say no to her but then, he figured out how to do it by just telling her this; “If you were my wife now, what would you feel about it?”
