Bizarre Marriage

July 6, 2009

Another side-effect of interracial marriage

Filed under: This and That — Tags: , — Vienna @ 11:16 am

I think it is a common thing that when one learns a foreign language, he eventually loses his proficiency in his own language or in any language he learned earlier.

This is what I am experiencing right now.

Basically, I can speak three Philippine dialects, and two languages (Filipino and English). I also learned a little bit of Chinese.

In my pursuit to learn German, I think the biggest consequence is that I am losing what little English skills I have. I wouldn’t mind losing my skills in those Philippine dialects because I honestly don’t find any significant or life changing use of them.

But with English, it is different.

Like many citizens of the Philippines, I learned English as a second language and for me it is a continuous learning process. I say that it is a continuous learning process because I’ve never felt that I’ve achieved the English proficiency of a native speaker. And though I am not aiming to adopt an English native speaker’s twang and accent, I want to be able to use English (written and spoken) with the same ease as that of a native speaker.

And so there goes my problem. Right now, I don’t use English too often and although I try to hold on to it by reading and rereading books and blogs that are written in English, I still feel like my English is degrading. Not only that but much to my dismay, I also somehow successfully able to adopt the kind of English they speak here. That means that when I am speaking in English, I now have those awkward rising and falling tones that are unevenly spread all throughout my sentences. Normally, these tones sound wonderfully melodious when used in an Austrian dialect but these tones definitely sound absurd when used in English.

The only person I talk to in English right now is my husband. Slowly, we are trying to speak to each other in German (this is in our effort to improve my German skills). Hopefully we don’t get use to speaking in German to each other that much so there’s still room for English because I sure don’t like to lose my skills in English. I know it will always come in handy especially since we really like to raise our future kid/s as English/German bilingual.

March 13, 2008

Obligatory Language Lessons

Written on : January 16, 2008

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We worked out a plan concerning our problem about being away from each other for three months. I will not go to Austria this summer to study German there but I have to get a tutor here and I must take my lessons seriously. I must really learn how to speak before we go there for a two weeks vacation in May. By then, I should be good enough to pass the examination. So we will risk it. I will take the course’s examination without attending its lessons. Getting the school to agree to this is yet another thing we have to manage but right now I am just glad to know that we don’t have to be separated for 3 months.

My previous German tutor is an Austrian. I had around 10 sessions with her but she is now expecting so she needed to go back to Austria for good. Marcus got me another tutor and she is a Korean who is married to a Belgian guy. She can speak Korean, Chinese, English, Belgian, and German. Impressive. I met her today for our first lesson and I have to say that she is quite good. She’s not a native speaker of German but she teaches this language well.

Maybe a lot of you are wondering why Marcus is not teaching me. Well, Marcus is not a very good teacher. Sure he can speak perfect German (obviously because it’s his mother tongue) but he doesn’t know how to explain the intricacies of it. He can correct me if my grammar is wrong however he cannot explain why my grammar is wrong and how I can make it right. Plus, we are so used to speaking in English with each another. So far, the most difficult thing that I have to overcome in this intercultural marriage thing is that even if Marcus can speak perfect English, I still have to study German. Do you know what’s his? For him, the most difficult thing to overcome is eating balut (fertilized duck eggs).

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